‘Yet’

Life isn’t back to normal YET ;)

It has been so helpful and energizing to have an assistant. When catching up with friends, it is easily an exciting thing to share because it has and continues to make a difference. Given everything going on in the world right now, there are very really parts of life that are on hold or slowly in transition.

On bad days, those hold/transition areas can take the focus and drag everything down and make the day worse. It’s so easy for us to make all-or-nothing statements that reinforce and multiply frustrating feelings. I’ve slid in ‘yet’ when talking with others and they are struggling, AND I am thankful for when others have done it for me too.

Adding ‘yet’ interrupts the feeling from building and takes it down a notch. Like “That project hasn’t started…YET. It will start in another month or so.” or “I can’t move to that city…YET. I will when conditions are right again.” or for my parents “We haven’t found our new house…YET. We are ok until then and it will happen soon enough.” or for clients “I haven’t found someone for that role…YET. This role is important so I’m ok taking my time to get it right”. It can sound silly but language makes a huge difference. It is too easy to keep something feeling big and heavy and frustrating by repeating all-or-nothing statements, like something hasn’t/can’t happened.

An assistant has influenced my energy throughout the day, throughout tasks. It has made work easier and kept me in my zone of genius for more of the day. Whether it’s when catching up with other people or in my own self-talk statements throughout the rest of the day, adding yet has nipped energy drains in the bud. Instead of frustration, it has felt like persistence and optimism for what is coming.